tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post1278211121203550701..comments2023-08-09T12:26:07.061+01:00Comments on The Third...: Background3rd...http://www.blogger.com/profile/13719722967344319274noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-35612071834610023962008-08-21T12:44:00.000+01:002008-08-21T12:44:00.000+01:00update - got a message from *c* that her blog is p...update - got a message from *c* that her blog is private temporarily, it has to do with her situation at home, she plans to open it up for everyone again3rd...https://www.blogger.com/profile/13719722967344319274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-48867295637663902102008-08-20T14:03:00.000+01:002008-08-20T14:03:00.000+01:00@brenda-noor and hrazzaghi1 - i've notified *c* of...@brenda-noor and hrazzaghi1 - i've notified *c* of your comments here, so who knows.. in any case even if she would like to invite you guys - she needs your e-mail adresses and your profiles do not disclose those - so you might consider changing that?3rd...https://www.blogger.com/profile/13719722967344319274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-88621799525991927962008-08-20T05:03:00.000+01:002008-08-20T05:03:00.000+01:00brenda-noor, me too!!! I want to be invited too!!!...brenda-noor, me too!!! I want to be invited too!!! I'm an avid reader of her blog and have been thinking about/praying for her sooo much lately... :(Haniehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00628685669862919688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-70167251241288577652008-08-20T01:55:00.000+01:002008-08-20T01:55:00.000+01:00OH NO! Somebody tell *C* on distelfink farm to PLL...OH NO! Somebody tell *C* on distelfink farm to PLLLLZZZZZ invite me to read her blog. I have been reading it foooor quite sometime now. I am a poor noter but I promise i will note on every post inshallah!<BR/><BR/>this is what I get:<BR/>"This blog is open to invited readers only<BR/>http://distelfinkfarm.blogspot.com/<BR/><BR/>It doesn't look like you have been invited to read this blog. If you think this is a mistake, you might want to contact the blog author and request an invitation.<BR/><BR/>You're signed in as brendaweaisle@yahoo.com"Jannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08971750847129508931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-35569814627171802642008-08-18T10:18:00.000+01:002008-08-18T10:18:00.000+01:00Yep, PM I think you got it right. I almost feel ba...Yep, PM I think you got it right. I almost feel bad for your husband. If you all are share bickering over the time he spends with each of you which probably isn't a whole heck of a lot of time, what time does he have with his children and what time does he have alone to himself? He's spread very thin and truthfully as he ages this may be a huge factor on his health. I know my husband and most men feel like they are so strong and have the ability to do it ALL everyday! This is false. The only one who does not tired nor sleep overtakes Him is Al Qawi. Everyone else falters, but with four wives, faltering a little would have such mega consequences with the wives, let alone the children.Musleemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13685925843221561520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-61506947853859711962008-08-16T00:04:00.000+01:002008-08-16T00:04:00.000+01:00@new#3 - cool! you can find my email in my profile...@new#3 - cool! you can find my email in my profile overview.. just click on my name above this comment and it will bring you to my profile with my e-mail..3rd...https://www.blogger.com/profile/13719722967344319274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-70977824859050817242008-08-15T19:29:00.000+01:002008-08-15T19:29:00.000+01:00Don't think "me, me, ME!" ... Think FAMILY! ... Wh...Don't think "me, me, ME!" ... Think FAMILY! ... Whether wives be one or two or three ... or even more maybe ... This is the key to living happily - Don't think "me, me, ME!" ... Think FAMILY!<BR/><BR/>God bless you,<BR/>DiscipleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-44371730544003551812008-08-14T23:32:00.000+01:002008-08-14T23:32:00.000+01:00I have to say I agree with ummabdur.We live 24/7 a...I have to say I agree with ummabdur.<BR/>We live 24/7 all in the same house and honestly the constant show of affection, I mean CONSTANT, from #2 to hubby can drive me CRAZY. I have my own room but still..because I feel too considerate of #1's feelings to behave that way constantly, I don't indulge. Matter of fact took me a while to show any PDA toward hubby. However, this isn't the only reason I wish I had my own house...the bathroom...the kitchen...the book shelves...the continual compromising...it's just I feel it makes a challenging situation that much more difficult. Believe me Third, you have to be careful what you wish for! lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-44551626674714022902008-08-14T20:07:00.000+01:002008-08-14T20:07:00.000+01:00Interesting. I just can't find anything to comment...Interesting. I just can't find anything to comment about. I will say if we all lived together I would miss the closeness Hubby and I have. I would miss cuddling on the couch or throwing skillets at him. I am a touchy feely person and I would not be able to be that way because I would be too concerned about her feelings....you know? It would be like the time they were making out in the kitchen while I was waitng for him to come home with me...I just can't have thier affection thrown in my face 24/7 sometimes i am OK with it and sometimes not and the times I am not I can leave and come to my OWN SEPERATE house. Where would I go if we lived together? To my room so she could come and tell me she loved him more cuz he was the only man she had ever been with....and she was first, so she should be the one upset not me..... Ummm no thanks...I like my house....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-3574726263691961942008-08-14T19:20:00.000+01:002008-08-14T19:20:00.000+01:00I can't but help but wonder why your husband (and ...I can't but help but wonder why your husband (and some of you wives) are not conecrned about how he is spreading himeself so thin among women, and especially children. While I admire you kindness and sensitivity, I frankly don't see those characteristics in a man who is willing to spend as little time and energy on someone he marries and especially has children with. It just seems horribly selfish to me.<BR/><BR/>May I ask if it is some kind of religious motivation that made your husband think having 4 wives (and potentially more, I guess) is a good thing?<BR/><BR/>Regards,<BR/>PMPMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039810429646916382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-91236282054043782842008-08-14T10:29:00.000+01:002008-08-14T10:29:00.000+01:00thank you for the background :) It makes me feel b...thank you for the background :) It makes me feel better to see that mine isn't the only plural marriage with these types of jealousies and pain. I understand your First wife's pain. I really do. And each of yours in turn when another is added. Polyamy isn't an easy way to live but there are rewards that are sometimes hard to explain. I feel you approach the telling of it very well. It is a shame though that your friendship with fourth wife has faltered. <BR/>By the way, I am not able to email you through your blog. I have started my own and wanted to ask if I could put this one on my list of blogs.<BR/>I love reading your posts and look forward to them :) Be strong.new#3https://www.blogger.com/profile/08502107324722814488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-3148879680965302232008-08-14T09:19:00.000+01:002008-08-14T09:19:00.000+01:00What first fails to see are the alternate realitie...What first fails to see are the alternate realities she has rejected (monogamy). She has the spiritual growth of a man dealing with all of these women and issues--he is maybe more than 4x the man with her that he would be otherwise, plus he probably has a lot more spiritual and emotional energy when he is with her now . . . <BR/><BR/>If he were "still alone with her" there is a big chance he wouldn't be "still alone with her" if you get my drift. <BR/><BR/>So, she wants the benefits of his growth and energy as well as his time. She wants her cake and to eat it, too. If she saw how most marriages work--6 is not the end of the line--he would be gone almost as much, perhaps, but out with the boys, etc...<BR/><BR/>I think one solution is fostering intimate sexual relationships among the women, sharing bedtimes...stop thinking of time as "yours, mine, and ours"...<BR/><BR/>And animosity towards other wives is really animosity towards oneself for going down the path. Ultimately, each much accept ones own decision to do this or get out.<BR/><BR/>It is as simple as that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-80001762103703207462008-08-14T02:42:00.000+01:002008-08-14T02:42:00.000+01:00wow! As expected, Everyone of you have had your st...wow! As expected, Everyone of you have had your struggles in this. I do feel for the first. She started out with good intentions and maybe it somehow ended up backfiring & bit her in the ass. As you said, i don't think she really knew what she was getting into. <BR/><BR/>I was gonna try polygyny with my husband. Well he met the potential, which happened to be my friend. I was thinking, This is great, I get to have my best friend around all the time and we would all be one big happy family. It was okay as long as I was the intermediary but when they started developing feelings for each other and talking together without me being around, it came back and bit me in the ass. I discovered that I had this jealousy that I didn't know existed. Yeah I knew I had some but not to this extent. I thought i was okay with it at first. But I wasn't. I didn't show my feelings because I had got something started and couldn't be selfish as to trying to put and end to it. So I just smiled and put on a happy face but I felt like i was dying inside. But then something happened between them and it ended. They never married thankfully and I am so thankful it has ended between them. <BR/><BR/>I love him and I think I just need him to be with me. I think God showed me that and showed me that I wasn't up to this. It was a good lesson to learn about myself.Jannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08971750847129508931noreply@blogger.com