tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post4967505107715894183..comments2023-08-09T12:26:07.061+01:00Comments on The Third...: The rollercoaster...3rd...http://www.blogger.com/profile/13719722967344319274noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-77459399824547315132009-10-26T00:39:51.012+00:002009-10-26T00:39:51.012+00:00They're baa-aack!They're baa-aack!Donaldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17570022381385517383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-43076540849998585442009-10-24T06:52:48.915+01:002009-10-24T06:52:48.915+01:002nd seems to be the most rational person of the fa...2nd seems to be the most rational person of the family. Please stop making her feel guilty about her feelings.<br /><br />Her husband enjoys sex with other woman, if she is hurt it's natural not because she had abusive childhood. Only vulnerable women can do this mistake in search of emotional shelter/guidance. She doesn't need counseling she just needs to get out of this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-77861175944608950982008-12-16T12:00:00.000+00:002008-12-16T12:00:00.000+00:00I missed youI missed youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-70528099775452307202008-12-14T00:36:00.000+00:002008-12-14T00:36:00.000+00:00@donald - spot on.. :) your comments are always so...@donald - spot on.. :) your comments are always so valuable<BR/><BR/>@meggin - it's good to be back! :)<BR/><BR/>@moon - i am so happy this blog has helped to make you more comfortable in faith! thank you for your comment3rd...https://www.blogger.com/profile/13719722967344319274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-5168883694064992262008-12-13T23:37:00.001+00:002008-12-13T23:37:00.001+00:00I meant to say 3rdI meant to say 3rdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-7595246583526923252008-12-13T23:37:00.000+00:002008-12-13T23:37:00.000+00:00Moon, #rd is not Muslim, other religions allow for...Moon, #rd is not Muslim, other religions allow for polygyny too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-48833740497647226932008-12-13T22:44:00.000+00:002008-12-13T22:44:00.000+00:00Glad you're back. I think this is the first time i...Glad you're back. I think this is the first time i'm commenting here. Thank you for putting your experiences online, you've helped me to understand n accept polygymy. It's part of being a muslim, but it was so hard for me to accept it, before i read your blog. <BR/><BR/>Hope everything continues well in your marriage, and the problems post themselves out.Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00434495702634570589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-34557299839843434652008-12-12T04:37:00.000+00:002008-12-12T04:37:00.000+00:00PS, regarding the last comment, I am not saying yo...PS, regarding the last comment, I am not saying your husband is abusing her, I am saying that she may be putting herself in a situation where she is not getting emotionally what she needs (or expects) (and it sounds like she may need a lot) and that in itself is what can creat an abusive situation-at least for her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-27970564847652394602008-12-12T04:35:00.000+00:002008-12-12T04:35:00.000+00:00I think a reason that #2 may have married a man wh...I think a reason that #2 may have married a man who already had a wife was because of her self esteem issues and trauma issues to begin with. Women who have been abused in the past get involved in abusive relationships as adults. I am not making this up. You can research this for yourself. This relationship can be very damaging for some people and especially damaging for others. Perhaps you are inserting your own emotions as to how you think SHE should feel about making it all work, but is this really what will make her better? If it is not, and through counseling she comes to that conclusion, you need to support it as well. Don't get so stuck on advocating for a polygamous lifestyle you need to let her explore if this is actually emotionally good for HER. This is not about you. So, if she decides that this lifestyle is hurting her, you have to be open to that as well and don't push your thoughts on it on her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-25289988995957337402008-12-10T19:07:00.000+00:002008-12-10T19:07:00.000+00:00I often misunderstand what people say and I've not...I often misunderstand what people say and I've noticed that hubby misunderstands me alot even though we have known each other for years and started our relationship as best friends. It really is the best reason to be slow to anger and stop and talk. <BR/>It sounds like your #2 had a tough childhood and it's wonderful that you are there for her. <BR/>Don't feel guilty about your lack of posts...it happens. :) take care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-3250384196322125852008-12-10T05:31:00.000+00:002008-12-10T05:31:00.000+00:00I'll say a prayer for 2nd. I do hope this brings y...I'll say a prayer for 2nd. I do hope this brings you all closer. I think you hit on one of life's most important lessons right here:<BR/><BR/>"sometimes I lose track of what the problem is and focus on the stuff she is saying instead of the things that I know are the real issues."<BR/><BR/>Aren't we all guilty of that! To make matters worse, it's so easy to misunderstand what someone else is saying, let alone where it's coming from. We tend to react to what's said based on how it makes <I>us</I> feel. How many times I wish I had not reacted to something my wife or a close friend did or said, but stopped and weighed my response based on what I know to be true… e.g. Hang on. My wife loves me. I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt me. Where is this coming from? What are her needs right now?Donaldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17570022381385517383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4772985086227453517.post-78410562394046232682008-12-09T21:14:00.000+00:002008-12-09T21:14:00.000+00:00So glad that you're back! I'm sorry that #2 is ha...So glad that you're back! I'm sorry that #2 is having issues, but I'm glad it is bringing your family together as opposed to pushing you all apart!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com