Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Undefined by numbers

Hello all.. Well, I didn't want to come back here and say I was busy, though I was, but it was obviously not the reason for my absence. It took me some evaluating to figure out why exactly I haven't felt the need to write anything for so long. One might think it's because of some issues, well no..not at all.
For those that have read my blog since the beginning you might remember the post 'defined by numbers', in which I was wondering why it is that the fact I am 3rd tends to dominate my life, it seems to be so defining.. Well, it isn't anymore. Actually I hardly ever think about polygyny at all nowadays, and that's a good thing. The reason for this is probably that the amount of fights have reduced to almost zero. This does not mean we're the best of friends. We just hang out as much as we feel like it and not more than that. As far as I am concerned this works really well.
Another important thing is that I feel like I have fully come to terms with this lifestyle. And this has really a lot to do with this blogging-thing, and especially with the insightful comments from all of you. Especially Donald, Sage, CM, and a special reader that has always preferred to comment by mail, namely Paul. And of course UmmAR kept me smiling.
Then there were the stories of all the other people that live this lifestyle or that have lived this lifestyle, they have helped me get a better perspective on who I am and how I want to live my own life.
Doesn't this feel like a goodbye?
Kind of, it does, I am wondering if it makes sense to keep blogging as 3rd. I don't feel like venting about polygyny anymore. I might occasionally, but will it really fill a blog? Right now it seems it won't.
At the moment I am inclined to just leave this blog open and whenever I feel like it update something, but I haven't made my final decision yet. What do you guys think?


Donald said...

A wise man once wrote, ‘To everything there is a season’. Perhaps the reason for this season has come to an end? Someone else (who shall remain nameless) seems to have abandoned their blog too. ;)

3rd, thank you for your friendship, both on this blog and off. I have valued your words of wisdom too. You will be missed.

new#3 said...

3rd, I hope you don't leave, but I know that is selfish of me. I love reading your posts and only lament that we haven't developed more of a friendship. Of all the blogs about polygamy, I relate to yours the most maybe because I'm #3 :) Anyway, I would like to suggest that you keep blogging even if it's not centered on polygamy. Please consider this.

Will miss you.

CM said...

I feel like I may be saying good bye to a friend and she is saying I will never hear from her again. :(

I hope you will keep your blog open and just keep in touch now and then on any topic you wish. I have learned a lot from you and often been given gentle reminders of the importance of striving for a higher level. What ever you decide, I just want to thank you for sharing part of yourself with us and I hope that the peace and contentment you are feeling now will always continue for you and your family.

Take care!

Ana said...

3rd, I get that urge not to write anymore and then all of a sudden, I get a burst of inspiration and I'm right back at it again. I understand your position. I'd suggest you just leave your blog open and see where life takes you. This way, it's never goodbye.

I pray you have love, peace, joy and happiness more often than not. I pray God continues to bless you immensely!

Safiyyah said...

Greetings Dear:

I wish you would keep blogging; but -- whenever you feel like it :)

Don't go away. We all have huge cyber love for you dear :)

Oh, and I'm glad you don't feel defined by numbers anymore. Maybe you could change your blog name?

3rd... said...

Thank you guys.. these were really sweet comments. I will update whenever I feel like it.

For now, I'll keep the name of the blog as it is. It grew on me.

New#3 - that were some kind words. :) thank you

Anonymous said...

Don't close it. I come back to read you :)

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