Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Reflecting on past year with the blog

It's been somewhat over a year ago that I started this blog, and I have been reflecting on what it has meant for me.. Someone once gave me the advice to always reflect what a chosen path has lead you to as it will clearly tell you whether you are on the right path or not. Has it brought you nearer to your goal?
The biggest benefit from starting this blog was discovering that there are so many people out there living in polygyny and realizing that it can work. Sometimes you get stuck in your own view of life. I might think that it is absolutely not done to hug Mr.Hubby in front of a sisterwife. But is it really not done? And if another sisterwife did this, does it mean she’s being mean towards me? Probably not. So it has made me re-evaluate certain viewpoints that I just take for granted.
Reading the blogs where polygyny works as well as where it’s still a major struggle, has been insightful. I have come to appreciate Mr.Hubby’s way of handling things a lot more, and I have become more understanding of the way my sisterwives deal with their struggles.
In some ways I have formed a clearer perspective on how I think polygyny should work, instead of just trying to follow Mr.Hubby’s take on it. And I have come to realize that my main weakness lies in the extent to which I want a close bond with my sisterwives. This I think is my main struggle and the main reason why it has been so hard to become close thus far. I just don’t want it badly enough. 2nd always sais its because I am happy with my relationship with Mr.Hubby that I don’t really desire to be close friends with her and confide in her. I am not sure if that’s the real reason, but somehow I feel like it’s good enough to like each other and get along. And I have still to figure out how to get myself to take the next step and really throw my heart into the relationship with my sisterwives.
So in conclusion, I think blogging has been a good decision. I informed Mr.Hubby about my blog and let him read it a few weeks ago. He’s somewhat confused about how it all works but has found it alright so far.
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11 comments:

Mts511 said...

I just started blogging at the begining of April and I find it to be very theraputic and it makes me think about my emotions more when I see them in writing. I enjoy all your blogs and always look forward to your next. You are an inspiration :)

Donald said...

I don't know why, but I guess I assumed Mr Hubby already knew about the blog. He wasn't upset that you had kept it a secret?

Bilqees said...

I find blogging very therapeutic too.I've never really had anyone to talk to regarding polygamy so this is the first time i can truly be free to say what i want,it's LIBERATING!

3rd... said...

I told Mr.Hubby when I started the blog that I did that, but I refused to tell him the name / url etc. So he was in the dark about the contents. The reason being - he is a mess with keeping stuff secret. Too many times I have unlocked my laptop to find an email from a SW still open and active.. He's a mess with those things, and he knows it, so he agreed to me not letting him know more.

I let him read it now and asked him to promise not to read it on any other pc than my own. He promised. I hope he keeps that promise..

new#3 said...

Hubby wasn't happy at first glance at my blog, but when he realized finally that it wasn't all whining about #2 he calmed down and now I think he has forgotten about it! At first also, he was concerned that I sometimes make him sound like a jerk!! I hadn't realized that at all..he is far from a jerk. The thing is that a blog in my mind isn't for family members..it's for yourself!

3rd... said...

@new#3 - indeed! :) it's our own place to vent

DeeDee said...

cool that you shared your blog with hubby--and happy that you share it with us, too :o)

BN said...

3rd, I am about to lose my mind searching for a particular blog we both use to read. You may still read her. Her old blog address was distelfinkfarm.blogspot.com. I deleted most of my bookmarks a while back and I haven't been able to find her new blog again. Could you please help me. I want to update myself on her and the family.

3rd... said...

sorry BN can't help.. C deleted her blog.. :s

runningleap said...

To Miss Noor (BN):

My old blog (Distelfink Farm) is gone, but I do blog still. I'm now at www.runningleap.wordpress.com

C said...

And if you (or anyone) does check in on me at runningleap.wordpress.com, do say hello! I miss all my old blog-friends and my commenters.